Mediation’s Theme Song
Have you heard John Mayer’s “Say” (if not, hear it at http://bit.ly/hJlGT). When I first listened to this song last year, I was immediately taken by its simple message – “Say what you need to say”. All too often in life we don’t say what we need to say. We clam up out of fear, embarrassment, etc. We suffer in silence in our relationships whether personal or in the workplace. We don’t bring up the difficult subjects and/or really voice what is on our minds. Consequently, our needs and interests go unmet causing more stress, anger, resentment, etc.
Take a look at the lyrics of this song:
Take all of your wasted honor
Every past frustration
Take all your so called problems
Better put ‘em in quotations
Say what you need to say (x7)
Say what you need to say
Walking like a one man army
Fighting with the shadows in your head
Living out the same old moment
Knowing you’d be better off instead
If you could only
Say what you need to say (x7)
Say what you need to say.
Have no fear
For giving in
Have no fear
For giving over
You better know that in the end
It’s better to say too much
Than to never say what you need to say again
Even if your hands are shaking
And your faith is broken
Even as the eyes are closing
Do it with a heart wide open. . .wide…
Say what you need (x7)
Say what you need to
Say what you need to
Say what you need to say…
I see this song by John Mayer as Mediation’s theme song. When in mediation, it is vitally important to say what you need to say. You are empowered in the mediation process to decide your future. Whether you are a couple trying to work out a plan to stay together, a couple deciding to end their relationship, or co-parents working on a cooperative co-parenting arrangement for your children, it is imperative to say what you need to say. It’s your destiny, your future, and you need to be heard and understood. The mediation process allows for open communication in a way that the courtroom does not.
“Say what you need to say – you know that in the end, it’s better to say too much than never to say what you need to say.” Think about it. How much better our world would be if we would just say what we need to say.
